Easy Faux Antique Tarot Deck Trick (make a new deck look old!)
Choose art grade markers in any colors you’d like. Markers with a chisel tip work best (I used four Copic markers for this deck).
Divide your deck into separate stacks with one stack for each color you’ll use.
Grab one stack at a time and color the edges of the cards using a different color for each stack.
Once everything is totally dry, shuffle your deck back together and you’re done!
Pro tip:
The more edges you color at a time all stacked together, the more bleeding and marking you’ll get into the faces and backs of your cards. Use bigger stacks for a more aged and faux antique look. Use smaller stacks or color one card at a time for a cleaner finished look.
For this demo I used the Etherial Visions Illuminated Tarot and you can see before and after pictures below.
Faces after antiquing process
Backs after antiquing process
Sides after antiquing process
Faces before antiquing process
Sides before antiquing process
Backs before antiquing process
The Most Fun and Useful Daily Tarot Exercise Ever!
So you’ve gotten yourself a deck and you’ve been reading through that little book that came with it. Maybe you’ve started doing some readings for yourself or your friends, but you’re still using the book as a crutch. Or perhaps you’re an experienced reader but you’d like to connect with the cards on a deeper level and read from a more intuitive place. Let me first stop you and invite you to read one of my previous blog posts titled “How To Identify and Develop Your Psychic Language” which can be found here:
https://www.nightingaletarot.com/blog/development-your-own-psychic-language
Once you’ve read that, you should have a better understanding of how to initially connect with your cards, but your intuition is like a muscle that has to be exercised regularly in order to be strong. In my opinion, the best way to do this is by performing a daily tarot draw. This is a very simple yet powerful way to continue to develop and expand your psychic vocabulary. I have a way of doing this that is very fun that I’m going to teach you here. This is not only an exercise I do for myself because I love doing it, but it’s one I give to every tarot student I’ve ever mentored because it’s incredibly useful for sharpening intuition.
This exercise does not have to be complicated or surrounded by complex ritual, although if that’s your jam, by all means go for it. You can make the draw as boujee or as quick and simple as you’d like.
You will need a few things:
Tarot deck
Journal
Pen/Pencil (colored pencils or markers if you’re a fancy pants)
Everyday, preferably when you wake up, shuffle your deck and draw a single card. Record it in your journal. You can draw it, paint it, make up a symbol to represent it, write it out…it doesn’t matter. Like I said, make this as simple or as complicated as you want. You can start with just upright cards for a while if you’d like until you get a really comfortable grasp of this exercise. You can always start adding reversals later if you decide to do that, but even by only practicing uprights you will still deepen and broaden your understanding of reversals if you choose to read them.
Now, it’s very important to remember that this daily card draw is not designed to be predictive of your day. If you draw the Tower, don’t be walking around in fear expecting your shit to hit the fan all day. The card is not about you. What you’re going to do is carefully survey your environment and the situations and people in it while intentionally seeking out examples of that card. You are on a tarot scavenger hunt and the goal is to find as many examples as possible of your daily card. Maybe you’ll hear it in a song on the radio. Maybe you’ll see it on TV. Maybe you’ll overhear someone talking about a situation in their own life and think “yep, that’s the Tower.” Maybe it’ll be entirely literal and you will see a picture somewhere of an actual tower falling. Perhaps you’ll bump into a person who reminds you of your ex who brought some heavy Tower energy to your life at one time. The point is to make it a game where the object is to find as many things as possible through the day that you are able to relate back to your daily card. Imagine you are competing with someone for who can find the most references to that day’s card.
Side note: if you ever want to actually compete with me for a day for this exercise just email me at NightingaleTarot@yahoo.com and I’d love to do this!
At the end of the day, return to your journal to record your thoughts and observations. See how many you were able to find. Like I said, you can make this process as detailed or simple as you’d like. Sometimes it’s fun to use markers or colored pencils to bring color associations in too. Hell, you can write a song about it if you want. It’s your journal. Get creative. Keep a digital journal if you want. I don’t care. The point is that by doing this, you’re pulling the cards out of abstract concepts written in a little white book and you’re seeing all the surprising ways they can fit into real life scenarios. Have fun with this and you’ll be amazed at how much your understanding of the cards expands!
Fall Energy and Letting Go
It’s fall, y’all.
The fall season officially starts on September 21, which also marks the Pagan holiday of Mabon (fall equinox), and extends through December 21, which marks the Pagan holiday of Yule (winter solstice). It also happens to be my favorite season. Something about fall just makes my soul sing. I miss the Colorado fall with all of my entire being.
But why?
I don’t like pumpkin spice, as a matter of fact I actually hate it. I don’t care too much one way or another about big cozy sweaters, or fireplaces, or boots, or haunted houses, but I’m here to tell you that standing in a sea of changing Aspen leaves is among the most glorious of things a human being can experience. Fall leaf viewing was an activity I definitely counted down to all year when I lived in Colorado. I was always watching the calendar for when the peak of the fall leaves was expected so I could plan my drive into the mountains and take in all that magnificent fall splendor. I did it every year I lived there.
But why is fall so magical?
Not only is it stunningly beautiful to see, more importantly, it carries with it an even more stunningly beautiful concept. The concept of letting go. The ability to surrender to a transition with the knowledge that it will always come with the promise of new growth. It’s not just any transition. It’s the realization that the new will only manifest itself after space is made for it by clearing away the old. Fall is what letting go can feel like.
Within tarot, this fall energy is the same as that which is brought forward by the Death card or to a lesser extent, by the eight of cups. Both of these cards are defined by a need and a willingness to allow oneself to be open to transition so that growth can occur. By continuing to fight to hold onto something that no longer serves you, you are blocking the appearance of what comes next. New cannot exist energetically where old still lives. You must release what is no longer serving you, but it isn’t about the ending so much as it is about what space is being created for something different. Something even better.
Fall brings a noticeable shift in energy. It marks a time for embracing these transitions. You might have had some persistent discomfort with a part of your current path, but you’re still fighting to keep things as they are. The fall energetic shift can help you put a needed transition into action. What if what you think you want so desperately right now isn’t actually what reflects your best path? What if something that is fully in line with your highest good is just waiting for you to release that very thing you keep fighting so hard to hang onto? Are you desperately chasing something that is not meant for you?
When we are made to feel more and more uncomfortable where we are, it is almost always because we are on a path that does not lead to our greatest good. There are always signs trying to encourage us to allow the transition to something different. It often gets more and more uncomfortable trying to stay on the current path as time passes. What was once easy is now one obstacle and hardship after another. What was a whisper of discontent has become one major detour after another shouting to get our attention. Our life is trying to enter its own fall season. You know that unsettled part of your life that causes you to feel a nagging need to return to thinking about it all the time? You feel you just can’t get that part of your life settled? That’s what I’m talking about. The thing that keeps you up at night over and over worrying and troubleshooting a way to make it sit a little better with you? You feel the sense that a decision needs to happen but has yet to happen because none of the options feel right? I’m not talking about a transient bad day here and there or a fight with your partner. I’m talking about the thing you keep returning to over and over that never feels worked out regardless of what you do. There is always one more obstacle. It always feels like the current state of the thing is temporary…. or dare I say, in transition. Is it your career? Your relationship? Your location? Are you allowing that transition, or are you fighting it?
Fall can give you a big energetic push toward releasing your fear and your continued desire to fight needed transitions. Every year, fall will show you what release and surrender looks like and that it really is okay. The Earth gives us this beautiful transitional space followed by the quiet reflection of winter, and then finally the vibrant regrowth and renewal of spring. Fall is a visible reminder that transition and change are, and will continue to be, a part of our collective experience. We are shown that letting go and surrendering to change are necessary for the next stage of life to occur. Fall is a visual representation of the idea that the transition itself is often just as beautiful as the outcome if we follow Mother Nature’s lead by not only allowing, but by even lovingly welcoming change. Even when we can’t see what’s on the other side, we must trust that we are being led to the very place we are meant to be all the time.
It’s fall.
What transition is calling you?
Colorado fall.
“I’ve Always Wanted a Tarot Reading, But I’m So Scared”
“I’ve always wanted a tarot reading, but I’m so scared.”
“Of what?” I ask.
“I don’t know. I’m just so scared of what you’ll say.”
It’s rare for someone to find out I do this and not immediately launch into the above dialogue. I’m not exactly sure what it is about tarot that sparks such a high level of fear, but I mostly blame crappy television and movie depictions of tarot readers. This, in combination with largely biblically based fear mongering and incorrect information about tarot, keeps many people feeling “safer” at a distance while wrapped in a cloak of ignorance and misinformation. Television and movies like to portray tarot readers as shady and dark individuals (usually women since women are super scary) who use cryptic messages from the future to frighten and manipulate people. It’s not uncommon for these fictional tarot “masters” to predict violent deaths or horrible misfortune while presenting no option for changing the outcome and with no mention of free will. The rest of the readers you see usually have some kind of mysterious connection with dark forces and have often traded their souls for this forbidden tarot knowledge. If this is what you’re expecting to experience or encounter during a reading, no wonder you’re afraid. Shit, I would be too.
In reality, you should be no more afraid of tarot than you are of seeing a therapist. A therapist helps you look at your own issues alongside your patterns of behavior and thought. They help you develop strategies to live your best life and to help you become your most authentic self. They spend time talking to you to help you determine for yourself what your options are when making choices and then support you as you choose the option that works best for you. They empower you to become the best version of yourself by examining what barriers are holding you back and work with you to learn the strategies to overcome those barriers. They look at your past experiences with you to help you connect those experiences to your present circumstances and then look at how these things together can influence your future choices and outcomes. They help you achieve an awareness of the “why” behind things in your life and the “how” to effectively change those things you want to change. The responsibility to put any of what is learned into action is always yours though. Your therapist cannot make anything happen. Only YOU hold the power to affect an outcome.
Wait a minute…..that sounds exactly like a good tarot master who is using tarot as it is meant to be used. That actually sounds really helpful and useful and not scary or evil in any way. You mean to tell me that a skilled tarot master and a therapist are actually trying to guide you to the same self actualized place? They’re both here to help you shape your future in the most beneficial way for your own chosen life path? You are still the one ultimately responsible for acting on what is uncovered during your reading and for making the choices that lead to the ultimate outcome? Yep. It’s true.
Please understand that there is a huge difference between an actual tarot master and a sketchy movie fortune teller. Unfortunately, it’s usually the sketchy fortune teller who gets the spotlight in popular culture. This grossly incorrect depiction of tarot and how it works is largely responsible for the continued fear and misunderstanding I encounter nearly every time the subject comes up. This is really unfortunate because there are so many people who’s lives could take a totally different direction. If individuals were examining themselves in the deep way that tarot in the hands of a skilled reader allows, they could uncover and change so many things. Unfortunately, fear, some very deeply rooted misconceptions, and a consistently inaccurate portrayal of tarot readers continues to keep people away from this remarkably insightful practice. Tarot is not a cheap parlor trick. It’s not a “woo-woo” spectacle. It is an incredibly valuable tool for self reflection and growth, and if self reflection and growth is wrong, I don’t want to be right. I mean, I can throw in some “woo-woo” fortune telling shenanigans just for theatrics and fun if you’re into it, especially at parties and such where I’m hired mainly for my entertainment value. I can blow your mind with what I can tell you about yourself and your life, but that’s because I’m also psychically gifted completely separate from the cards. Other than as a party performer, I really don’t like to take my readings to that “woo-woo” psychic space unless what I’m seeing is going to be very beneficial or empowering for you to know and only if it’s something you want to discuss right then. It’s not my intention or my style to read that way. I like to use this skill as it was meant to be used. For the most part I’m like a therapist, but with a deck of cards in front of me, who is helping you look at yourself in a way you likely haven’t ever looked at yourself before. I’m actually really disappointingly unfrightening, unmysterious, and boringly ordinary when I read for people.
What could you learn about yourself if you were able to put aside your fears and biases and talk to me for a while?
I’m not sure if we could get any further away from the reality of tarot than movie depictions just like this.
Lenormand Versus Tarot
Cartomancy is my thing. Of all of the divinatory tools, cards are the tool I find most useful and what I reach for at the start of every single session with a client. It’s always been this way, and while I started this journey with tarot specifically, and still use it most often, there is another lesser known card system out there that is extremely useful for me.
You guessed it. It’s Lenormand.
The Lenormand system of cartomancy never really caught on quite the same way tarot did, especially here in America where I live. As a matter of fact, most people I speak with about it have never heard of it. It’s much more popular in Europe, but still not quite as well known as its good friend, tarot. So what is it? How is it different? How is it similar?
It’s the same basic principal as tarot in that it is a deck of cards that have an accepted set of interpretations. Tarot has 78 cards and Lenormand has 36, and some of the cards between the two decks even share common names, but this is where the similarities between the two systems end for me.
In tarot, it is possible to perform a one card reading often with a great deal of meaning and insight. Each card has a stand alone value all by itself that can then be layered with the meanings of the cards around it if the reader chooses to use multiple cards. This adds to the depth and complexity of the message, and most readers will use multiple card spreads, but it is not a requirement. Lenormand, however, can only be read in combinations. I equate this to a sentence. In order for the sentence to make sense it needs, at minimum, a subject and a predicate. Because of this, a two card combination is the starting requirement for a Lenormand reading. As you add more cards, your sentence then becomes more descriptive and complex. Think of these as adjectives, adverbs, direct objects, etc. A card by itself without the context of any other card is essentially useless. While the use surrounding cards can be helpful for tarot, for Lenormand it is not possible to interpret a card at all without the consideration of its neighbors. A one card Lenormand reading simply does not exist when the system is used correctly.
Another important distinction between Lenormand and tarot is the consistency in which the cards are interpreted. In tarot, there is a tremendous freedom to be found within the interpretation of each card. Tarot creators often take huge artistic liberties that can alter the traditionally accepted interpretation of the imagery of that card to make the card more meaningful to them. This is why some decks will deeply resonate with an individual while other decks will not. In short, different tarot decks will “read” very differently, while Lenormand remains very consistent across decks. The artwork may look very different, but it’s always going to be the same 36 cards in the same order with the same meanings. The art does not alter the foundation or interpretation of a Lenormand card the way it often does in tarot. It is also of note to mention that, interestingly, the meanings of the Lenormand cards and the tarot cards that share the same names are not interchangeable. Each system must be learned individually, but the consistency and simplicity of Lenormand interpretation makes it a very approachable system for beginners.
I use these two systems very differently. I most often refer to Lenormand decks as my “prophecy” decks. A Lenormand combination will throw out a clear prediction with STUNNING accuracy. These are usually very succinct one sentence readings for me. While this can be quite useful at times, I often find it disempowering as a stand alone reading and I like to focus my readings on empowerment and options. Because of this, I usually use Lenormand to get quickly to the root of what’s going on and what is likely immediately coming up, but I rarely stop there. I like to get deeper into a situation and talk about why something is happening as well as options for how to deal with it, and for this I will always turn to tarot. Tarot is often like having a therapist in front of you helping to uncover those deeply rooted patterns and behaviors that hold you back and then lovingly giving you an action plan to change things. You just don’t get that level of depth from Lenormand alone so I almost always prefer to use the two together. This gives me incredible insight due to the structured clarity of Lenormand in combination with the deep intuitive complexity of tarot. It’s almost like I’m talking to two different people about a situation where one is telling me about that situation with a tough love-no bullshit approach, while the other is holding my hand and helping me figure out how to process the information in the most useful way possible.
What is your experience with Lenormand? Do you combine card systems or do you use Lenormand and tarot separately?
How To Identify and Develop Your Psychic Language
“Is it like in TV and movies when you are overcome by visions that turn out to be true?”
“Do you hear voices telling you things that are about to happen?”
“Do you meditate and get information about things that haven’t happened yet?”
“Can you see things in crystal balls?”
“Do your Tarot cards just…like… show you the future?”
“Do you have precognitive dreams?”
“Can you read minds?”
“What am I thinking right now?”
“Seriously though, how do you do it?”
I’ve been asked all of these questions by curious people as well as hopeful psychics trying to develop their own abilities, and here’s the deal: everyone experiences psychic phenomena in their own very unique way. Developed psychics are the true snowflakes of the world because no two are alike. For every one of these questions, you will probably find a psychically gifted person who will confirm that this is, in fact, the way they get their information. Sometimes people, including myself, can’t even explain how they get some of their information other than to say “I just knew.” I will often try to explain it in a way that others can understand by comparing it to having a very clear memory of something that never actually happened to me. It’s like I’ve been given someone else’s memory, including the sounds, smells, sights, and feelings associated with it. This memory is not mine and even more strangely, this “memory” can be associated with an event that is in the past, the present, or even the future. This particular “delivery” method is one that I don’t have control over and it happens randomly. Strange, right? I know, it’s just as weird for me, and this experience is a perfect example of a natural psychic gift. I was born with this ability and I never had to work to develop or fine tune it. For better or worse, it just….is.
In an attempt to make sense of the phenomenon of psychic gifts, we have come up with some terms that give us a common language with which to refer to the different ways information comes to us. Psychic receipt of information usually falls into a few broad and universal categories that are often referred to as the “clairs.” This is the first part of understanding and identifying your own psychic gifts. “Clairs” are the “how.” How do you get the information? What human capability is recruited to let you know a message is coming through to you? These “clairs” are clairvoyance (psychic vision), clairaudience (psychic hearing), clairsentience (psychic feeling), and claircognisance (psychic knowing). There are some subcategories out there, but for the most part these are the big ones. The type of information received by each of the “clairs” is pretty obvious now that you know what each one means. Nearly 100% of developed psychics will fall into one or more of these categories, so this isn’t where the true uniqueness lies. How the information is uniquely interpreted by each person once it passes through any of these “clairs” is where the real differences are observed. This is the heart of the development of your own psychic language. If a hundred psychics who are all clairvoyant receive exactly the same vision, there will be 100 different interpretations of that vision resulting in 100 different messages. So you see, it’s about the interpretation of the designated reader rather than the specific symbols coming through. The psychic must develop the lens that is used to view and understand the messages. Very rarely, I will turn the client into the reader for a brief moment when I receive a message that I do not understand, by saying to my client “I don’t understand this, but you likely will so I’ll just tell you what I’m getting.” Without fail, that message will mean something to them that it did not mean to me. If your father died in an accident at a St. Patrick’s Day Parade, and you see a four leaf clover, you are going to interpret that through a very different lens than I do when I see a four leaf clover. No one else’s lens matters but yours when you are the one receiving the message. If it doesn’t make sense to the overall reading through my lens, I know to pass it through yours so you interpret it in your own symbolic language.
To illustrate just how unique each psychic is, I can tell you that my naturally given “clairs” are a combination of clairaudience and clairsentience. This means that if I can hear the vibration of your voice, I feel what you feel, and I know the intentions that are motivating both your words and actions. If I intentionally connect with this, I can also feel the emotions, and am aware of the intentions that are motivating the actions of those around you. It’s kind of like I can jump from you over to them. For me, these two “clairs” are very closely tied to one another and this is the absolute easiest way for me to quickly receive information. This is almost as natural as breathing for me and it is something I’ve done my entire life, even long before I realized it was unusual. In all honesty, I was an adult before I suspected that everyone wasn’t doing this all the time. I’m sure you can imagine the level of miscommunication I’ve experienced in my life due to this. In addition to this combination that was naturally gifted to me, I have developed and fine tuned the other two “clairs,” but they almost always involve my use of my main “clairs” to become activated and useful.
Cue the tools.
Here is where is gets super cool. Suspect you’re psychic? You definitely are, because the information being accessed through people’s natural psychic gifts is accessible to everyone. You just haven’t learned what psychic language you speak yet. So how do you find out? You simply have to develop your own lens. The easiest way to start to do this is by trying out every single psychic tool you can think of until you find the one that fully resonates with you. Tarot, crystal balls, tea leaves, meditation, runes…..it doesn’t matter. Spend time with all of them and one day you are going to get your hands (and your mind) on one that will unlock your full psychic potential. For me, it was Tarot cards. Along the way, I learned that I can receive information by skrying, reading tea leaves, pendulums, etc., because the tools aren’t actually where the power lies. Tarot cards are literally just pieces of paper. They simply act as a conduit for information to take a physical form that I can then easily interpret. Cards are likely always going to be the tool that allows me to receive messages in the clearest language in the shortest amount of time, but I practice with other tools daily so that I can continue to develop those skills too. I tell people that my full psychic potential is a lake, but I can’t swim so the tools have become the boat that allows me to get onto the lake without drowning. Otherwise, its like I’m trying to listen to a single news story that is on a TV in a room with 400 other TV’s all on a different station at maximum volume. I can’t hear the one I want by just sitting there listening, but my tools put all of them on mute except that one.
This brings me to my next point.
Listen to me closely here, because this is the part that most people completely miss when they are trying to develop their psychic abilities. Psychic information will ALWAYS come to you in YOUR OWN LANGUAGE. Stop trying to speak someone else’s language. You are solely responsible for the development of your own language. You must construct your own lens. The second you stop trying to speak someone else’s language, you will amaze yourself at the amount of information you are receiving all the time. Almost everyone has at least one of the “clairs” naturally given to them, but they haven’t developed the language to understand the information they are receiving. Seriously, just try it. Buy a new deck of Tarot cards and don’t even open that little book that comes with it until you’ve spent enough time with each card to decide how it makes you feel. Better yet, just throw the little book away. Think about what the images trigger in you. It will be different than any other person’s information. This will become your lens.
People have you thinking you have to meditate all day, pry your own third eye open, and engage in various other forms of ritualistic bullshit in order to “get in touch” with some mysterious force out there. You know how I learned to read Tarot cards? I bought a deck because it just seemed cool. I had no reason to do this. I suspect I was receiving messages leading me to take this action that I didn’t consciously recognize since I hadn’t developed my lens yet, but that’s another story. I spent nearly every waking second just flipping through that deck. I took it everywhere. I slept with it under my pillow. I spent a great deal of time with every single card identifying how it made me feel. I let my imagination wander and thought about what each card reminded me of. I paid attention to the songs, people, events in my life, emotions, thoughts, and anything else that came to mind as I did this. I paid very close attention to all of my senses as I spent time with each card. I took note of every single sensation. I spent literally years doing this before I ever attempted to read for anyone. This is how I fully connected with the collective conscious. I simply used examples from my own life and started linking them with symbols. I learned that on a fundamental level, nearly every human experience can be broken down to a few common energetic sensations. I developed a consistent link between certain unique and fixed symbols and those sensations. I bought new decks and did the same thing and through that process, I discovered that the same cards would mean completely different things for me if they were in different decks and used different colors and symbols. I had essentially written my own glossary.
Over many years, I was able to see distinct patterns. I was able to identify which symbols brought to mind particular patterns of energy and how those patterns shaped human behaviors in both myself and in others. Through this, my own glossary of psychic symbols that I still carry in my head with me has continued to develop. Knowing which symbols are connected to which energetic pathways in my own life, is the key to delivering consistent messages to others. This is my lens through which to interpret my messages, and my lens is different from anyone else’s. Every single piece of information that comes to me must pass through it to get here. If another psychic were to come behind me with their lens and look at my messages, what is so clear to me would probably look like total nonsense to them. After many years of practice, I’m now completely fluent in this language that I wrote for myself, but I know that if I had been trying to use someone else’s language, I would still have no idea that I have these abilities. I am now so fluent in my own language that I can use the same lens and apply it to any psychic tool, and really to any situation at all.
The bottom line? If you want to find out what your own psychic gifts are, start by identifying what your unique psychic language is and developing your own lens. Information can come across through pictures, songs, sudden emotions, sensations in your physical body, dreams, or just about anything else you can imagine (remember those “clairs”). The point is, regardless of how you are getting the information, the language being spoken and subsequent interpretation of it will be unique to you. It doesn’t matter what anyone else’s language is. It only matters that you are fluent in and can recognize yours. Tools are an incredibly useful way to find both your language and the way it is spoken to you. This a slow process for most people, but is necessary to become a fully developed psychic. The more you practice, the more fluent you will become.
I am not special. Every single one of you is capable of this if you want to develop it. If not, I’m happy to do the heavy lifting and bring your message to you through my own lens.
Brightest Blessings,
Nightingale
The Problem With Multiple Readings
Everyday I encounter at least one client who wants to have a million and one (okay that might be a little exaggeration) readings done on a single subject. This almost always involves another person and the relationship between the client and this other person. Most often, this is a relationship that has ended and the client wants to reconcile. This million-and-one-readings situation is also one I encounter often when there is a person the client wishes to be in a relationship with. They want to know exactly how this other person is feeling about them and if there is relationship potential. Neither of these reading subjects are inappropriate or beyond my capacity to see, and both of them can be very useful when making empowered and informed life choices. The problem comes in when the client wants multiple readings in rapid succession on exactly the same subject. Most often, these clients are chasing a reading that perfectly reflects the desired outcome so they can avoid having to work through their feelings of anxiety, grief, fear, or pain. Most of the time, the overwhelming message of this readings is, “you need to move on from this situation because a better path is waiting to align with you that you are blocking by continuing to energetically invest in this”, but I guess that’s none of my business, right? It is very difficult to hear “he/she is just not that into you”, but continuing to request readings, either from the same reader or from different readers until you hear the answer you want, does nothing for your personal growth and development. This simply keeps you on the path that does not lead to your highest good for a longer period of time. Trust me, you will find a psychic who will tell you exactly what you want to hear if you keep looking. Not all of us are proficient and comfortable with compassionately delivering bad news and far too many avoid doing this in an effort to avoid their own discomfort.
What if I’m not “psychic shopping”, but I’m just getting multiple readings in rapid succession on the same subject from the same psychic? Well, I’m glad you asked. Let me give you a scenario to consider:
Your significant other has broken up with you. You are heartbroken. You feel like you will never recover. In desperation, you seek out a reading from a psychic and you ask, “When will we reconcile?”. I look at your situation and discover that reconciliation with this person is not the path that leads to your long term happiness and your highest good. You need to walk away, but I can also see a path that does appear to be able to lead to reconciliation between you two. I know that this is not your best path and that you are blocking a better path that is waiting to come your way by doing this. I now hold an abundance of information that can be incredibly helpful for you and it is my ethical obligation to share it with you, but you are only prepared to hear the answer to the original question, "WHEN WILL THE RECONCILIATION HAPPEN?”. You are upset that I cannot tell you this. There are too many variables affecting the timing that are not possible to accurately predict. I can tell you how to get the ball rolling that way as long I can see the reconciliation as an outcome, but I’m simultaneously trying to get you to understand that this is not the choice that leads you where you should be headed for your highest good. This is a temporary band aid that will ease your pain in the short term, but sends you toward this same pain wrapped in a different cloak later on. This path is only serving to delay the lesson you are being asked to learn in the present moment in order to continue moving toward your highest good. It will only take longer to get to your highest good if you follow this path. It is a detour.
Far too many times, the tunnel vision of “when will this happen” obscures the real message trying to come to you. You ignore this warning I’m trying to give you and instead, you start joyfully down that path of reconciliation I told you about. Now begins an endless cycle of more readings along the lines of “how does he feel about me right now?”, or “did he get my text message” and “when will he respond to my email?” or one of my favorites, “how does he feel about my new Facebook profile picture?”. What this does, is puts you and I into a cycle where we are trying to chase someone else’s energetic path in real time. The funny thing about energetic pathways from the psychic perspective, is that they are like lightening. Picture how lightening wobbles, forks, splits, travels away, and eventually ends up at a singular striking point. They will reach their intended singular “striking point” IN THEIR OWN TIMING if we leave them alone. If we manipulate the energy at the point of a wobble or fork in the path, we are very likely to change the originally intended final endpoint of that particular path. Every wobble, split, and fork in your significant other’s path is going to be felt by me if it is occurring right around the time of that reading. If your significant other is having a bad day and is really having a hard time with something, I’m going to feel that as a pulling away. I have no choice but to tell you your significant other is currently pulled back and facing away from you energetically. This doesn’t mean that the path isn’t going to end in the same spot. It’s just a wobble, but for you, it is huge. It causes anxiety and erodes your trust in the process of how energetic pathways work. You now desperately need to regain control of the situation so you start frantically taking action to try and manipulate the path back toward you in some way.
As soon as we start trying to chase and manipulate a path, we are more than likely going to alter the end destination of that path with these actions. Sometimes this is the intention, but once we get aligned with the desired path, we then have to leave it alone, sit back, and trust the process and the timing. Now, recall that hypothetical path to reconciliation we’ve been chasing? You know, the one that isn’t the path to your greatest good? The universe wants you to move forward from this detour and align with your greatest good so it is working hard to make this happen for you. The detour energy is very fragile, and because of this, it is just waiting to fall apart so that you are forced to your greater good more quickly. Repeatedly looking at or trying to exert your control over an already fragile energetic pathway is the very best way to begin to actually start to repel that path from you. This apparent “shyness” of a pathway that appears to get farther and farther away from a client the more it is watched and prodded, is a phenomenon that has been observed by many psychics, including myself. Because of this, the biggest issue with multiple readings on the same subject in rapid succession is obtaining an outcome that is the opposite of what you desire. You wanted the detour, remember? But now you are manipulating all of the variables I have seen along this path that have made the detour possible for you. Every single reading done during a wobble or fork in the path causes you to take some sort of action or even start to think in such a way that begins to manipulate the intended outcome of that path. Since the default of the universe is to send you to your greatest good, this is where you’re going to go as you continue to manipulate your path. You will not go where you want to go, because that detour I saw in the initial reading? It no longer exists. You’ve obliterated it by obsessively trying to chase it and control it with your actions. Knowing that you are pushing yourself away from your desired detour and toward your greatest good faster isn’t going to hurt my feelings at all, because that’s always where I want you to be, but boy is it going to upset you when the outcome you’re chasing slips farther and farther from your grasp. Your detour is now gone.
The bottom line is, get a reading, find the path you want (even if it is a big detour I don’t agree with), and listen when I tell you how to get yourself aligned with that path. Once you’ve done this, leave it alone and trust the process. You should only check in on the same subject if there has been a very big change or a new development that has caused you to feel a major shift in the way things were going. If it feels like a sustained change lasting more than a few days, maybe it could be helpful to take a look at how the path is evolving, but wait for the wobble to pass before you panic. Breathe. Trust.
I’ll spare you a lengthy discussion on the reasons why forcing yourself to the wrong path leads you to feel the compulsion for serial readings in rapid succession in the first place. It should be a huge red flag to you if you feel the need to look at the same question over and over and over in closely spaced readings.
Spoiler alert:
The universe is taking advantage of the fragility of the energetic detour you are on and hoping you’ll inadvertently obliterate it completely by continuing to chase it.
So, my loving suggestion to you is to avoid that detour, and the multiple readings that come along with it completely, and be brave enough to identify and travel the path to your greatest good from the start.
Brightest Blessings,
Nightingale
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